Build Your Epic Intimate Life in 2025

Jan 7, 2025

By Victoria | Intimacy Coach

We often approach our careers, fitness goals, and nutrition with intention and careful planning. But what about our relationships?

It’s our connection to others that matters most. A six-pack or a six-figure income, areas of life where some of us put a lot of effort and intention, can’t compare to the joy of a deeply fulfilling intimacy.

Creating a thriving relationship begins with one simple question:

What would an epic relationship look and feel like?

By taking the time to think about and visualise the intimate life you desire, you ignite the process of bringing it to life. After all, where your attention goes, energy flows.

Thinking about your intimate life as a couple can be even more thrilling. Communicating with your partner your intentions tells them how much the relationship and they are important to you. Intimacy requires effort and action that speak much louder about your feelings.

Step 1: Reflect Together on 2024

Building your epic life starts with reflection. Romantic environment, candles, soothing music and your full presence while answering these questions:

What were the most intimate moments in 2024 for you?
What shared experiences and activities deepened our bond the most?
When did you feel the most loved by me?
What are some of your hottest sexual memories from last year?
What specific sexual activities bring you the most pleasure?

Related read: 50 Intimate Questions for a Deeper Bond

Step 2: Craft your Intentions

Take time to ponder these questions together, allowing for open and honest conversation:

What life would you like to build?
What does an epic relationship look like and feel like?
What does adventure, play and fun look like for you?
What do you need more of to feel close to me?
What would deepen emotional intimacy?
What does great sex feel like physically and emotionally?
How can we nurture more desire for each other?
What would you like to explore sexually?

From this discussion prioritise 2-3 intentions for you as a couple for 2025. Try to make them specific and measurable.

Step 3: Design Rituals

Create 2-3 rituals that align with your intentions and help bring them to life. These rituals should be simple yet meaningful, fitting seamlessly into your day.

Be creative - this is your chance to design something unique to your relationship. Naming your rituals can make them more sticky and memorable, turning them into a familiar part of your shared language.

Ritual Inspiration

1. Intention: Bring More Pleasure to Our Sex Life

To bring more pleasure into your physical intimacy consider these ideas:

Ritual Naughty Thursdays: Dedicate one evening a week to a playful date night, exploring something new in the bedroom.

Tantra Workshop: Discover the art of tantra by booking a workshop together.

2. Intention: Add More Adventure to Our Lives

Adventure brings novelty and energy into relationships. These rituals might make life more exciting:

Ritual Monthly Adventure: Take turns planning surprise activities once a month to keep things fresh and fun.

New Hobby Challenge: Experiment with three new hobbies and commit to one that you both enjoy.

3. Intention: Build More Desire for Each Other

Desire flourishes when it’s nurtured daily. To keep the spark alive, you could try:

Ritual Daily Simmering: Set aside 10 minutes each day for affection like hugs, kisses, or gentle touches.

4. Intention: Strengthen Our Emotional Bond

Strong emotional connections are the foundation of lasting relationships. Consider these practices to grow closer together:

Ritual Morning Connection: Start each day with a 30-second hug and share one thing you love about your partner.

Ritual Weekly Dates: Schedule regular date nights to focus on each other and connect.

Monthly Check-Ins: Set aside time each month to talk openly about your relationship: what’s going well, what could be better, and how you can continue growing together.

Related read: 20 New Things to Try in the Bedroom

The Power of Intentionality

Intentionality allows you to be the driver of your life, rather than feeling like a passenger of circumstances, past experience and childhood trauma. Remember, where your attention goes, your energy flows.

Here’s to an epic intimate life that is filled with presence (isn’t it the best present?), intimacy and pleasure.

Behind the Words

Victoria Rusnac

Founder of For Play & Intimacy Coach

Victoria combines 8 years of executive and career coaching, including an MBA from London Business School, with a passion for intimacy and the science of sexuality. Her journey into this field led to the creation of For Play Couples Chocolates and an Intimacy Coaching practice dedicated to helping couples build meaningful relationships. Featured in The Telegraph, The Independent, and Closer, Victoria has dedicated her work to inspire couples to deepen their intimacy.