For Play Story
Hi, I'm Victoria, the founder of For Play and an Intimacy Coach.
I noticed that my relationships started with crazy passion that died out after about one year, and stories from my friends reinforced this grim reality. My curiosity led me to study sexuality and intimacy, and what I discovered was eye-opening: countless long-term couples struggle with a lack of intimacy.
How can we sustain fulfilling intimacy over the long term?
Intimate relationships make us happy
An 85-year Harvard study found that the No. 1 thing that makes us happy in life and helps us “live longer” is having positive relationships.
90% of couples
feel emotionally close after intimacy
60% of couples
would like to have more intimacy
64% of people
don’t find it easy to talk about sex
Create time for intimacy and play
Sexperts advise scheduling intimacy and making it a priority. This inspired the creation of For Play Couples Chocolate: an intimate experience designed to create time and space for intimacy and connection. Whether it’s a vulnerable conversation, connecting hugs, or a passionate escapade, making time for each other is the key to maintaining the spark.
Top intimacy tips from Victoria
Whether you're looking to spice things up in your dating life or rekindle the spark with your partner, these tips will enhance intimacy and connection.
Scheduling intimacy is the new sexy. We need to carve out time and create space for desire to awaken (did you know that women tend to have responsive rather than spontaneous desire?) and for intimacy to flourish.
With my partner, every evening at 9 o’clock is our “sex o'clock”, or better said, “intimacy time”. This is when we engage in various forms of physical intimacy: hugging, kissing, giving each other massages, or other forms of sexual activity.
Transitioning from our intense professional lives to our erotic selves requires some conscious effort.
For my partner and me, creating an intimacy ritual has worked well to facilitate this transition. Our ritual includes showering, setting the ambiance with candles, playing erotic music, using special scents, and wearing seductive underwear (well, for me at least). This helps us disconnect from everyday worries, become more present in our bodies, reconnect with our erotic selves, and tap into our sensuality.
Simmering involves building up sexual energy together, much like you did when you were dating. Pull your partner in close and kiss them passionately. Hug them with your entire body and touch them sensually. Breathe in the scent of their skin. Spend time naked in bed, hugging and caressing each other. Make out passionately when you see each other.
I particularly love long morning kisses and passionately making out in the elevator—poor neighbours!
Multiple studies highlight that sexual communication is crucial not only for sexual satisfaction but also for the overall quality of long-term relationships. However, talking about sex often feels more vulnerable than the act itself.
Practice makes perfect. In my relationship I practise relationship check-ins where we ask each other “How can I make you happier?”, give daily appreciation and compliments, and play card games with intimate questions to deepen our emotional and intellectual connection.
Engage in exciting, inspiring, and connecting activities together. This could involve exploring new destinations, visiting new spas, trying new exercises, and indulging in new fantasies—novelty is crucial to sustaining desire.
Plan an adventurous holiday together, learn a new language, try a new sport, or engage in meditation. These new activities will deepen your intimacy and create fertile ground for desire.
Scheduling intimacy is the new sexy. We need to carve out time and create space for desire to awaken (did you know that women tend to have responsive rather than spontaneous desire?) and for intimacy to flourish.
With my partner, every evening at 9 o’clock is our “sex o'clock”, or better said, “intimacy time”. This is when we engage in various forms of physical intimacy: hugging, kissing, giving each other massages, or other forms of sexual activity.
Transitioning from our intense professional lives to our erotic selves requires some conscious effort.
For my partner and me, creating an intimacy ritual has worked well to facilitate this transition. Our ritual includes showering, setting the ambiance with candles, playing erotic music, using special scents, and wearing seductive underwear (well, for me at least). This helps us disconnect from everyday worries, become more present in our bodies, reconnect with our erotic selves, and tap into our sensuality.
Simmering involves building up sexual energy together, much like you did when you were dating. Pull your partner in close and kiss them passionately. Hug them with your entire body and touch them sensually. Breathe in the scent of their skin. Spend time naked in bed, hugging and caressing each other. Make out passionately when you see each other.
I particularly love long morning kisses and passionately making out in the elevator—poor neighbours!
Multiple studies highlight that sexual communication is crucial not only for sexual satisfaction but also for the overall quality of long-term relationships. However, talking about sex often feels more vulnerable than the act itself.
Practice makes perfect. In my relationship I practise relationship check-ins where we ask each other “How can I make you happier?”, give daily appreciation and compliments, and play card games with intimate questions to deepen our emotional and intellectual connection.
Engage in exciting, inspiring, and connecting activities together. This could involve exploring new destinations, visiting new spas, trying new exercises, and indulging in new fantasies—novelty is crucial to sustaining desire.
Plan an adventurous holiday together, learn a new language, try a new sport, or engage in meditation. These new activities will deepen your intimacy and create fertile ground for desire.
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