Valentine’s Day is the perfect excuse to indulge in more experimentation. So why not try something new this year? These sex tips will make this a Valentine’s you’ll never forget.
Valentine's Day isn’t just about flowers and candle lit dinners, it’s a day for intentional intimacy, where you focus on your partner, try out some new things in the bedroom (or wherever you find yourselves) and connect on a deeper level.
If you’re looking for some ideas of how to spice it up, look no further. This list of some of my favourite ideas to spark inspiration and make this Valentine’s day, one to remember.
1. Erotic Blueprint
Understanding your erotic blueprint is like unlocking your "love language" for intimacy showing the way we experience and express desire. Sexologist Jaiya breaks this down into five types: Sensual, Sexual, Energetic, Kinky, and Shapeshifter.
Why not find out which one you are this Valentine’s Day? It’ll help you understand what turns you and your partner on, and how to communicate your needs, allowing you both to have more connection and satisfying intimacy.
2. Sensory Play
Sex isn’t just about what happens physically, it’s about what you feel, hear, taste, and smell. Engaging the senses heightens anticipation, making every touch, sound, and sensation more intense.
Try using a blindfold to enhance touch, making every stroke, kiss, or whisper feel more electric. Experiment with different textures to stimulate the skin in unexpected ways. Try a massage candle to add both warmth and scent, while feathers, ice, or edible play can create a tantalising tingle for your tastebuds.
Related: Exploring Sensory Deprivation
3. Sensual Playlist
Music has the power to set the mood, heighten sensations, and deepen emotional connection. The right tracks can stir passion, awaken nostalgia, and ignite desire—whether it’s the smoky allure of jazz, the slow pulse of sultry R&B, or timeless love songs.
To make it effortless, we’ve crafted the ultimate sensual playlist—designed to guide your movements, heighten your energy, and build anticipation with every beat. Press play, surrender to the sound, and let the night unfold.
4. Porn-spiration
Ever wondered what turns your partner on? Well, why not ask them? Asking your partner to share the porn they watch is a great way to find out what excites them or what they’d like to try. This doesn’t mean replicating everything you see (porn is more like a film than real life), but getting inspired by new ideas.
Whether it’s role-play, power dynamics, or a specific kind of touch, uncovering these insights can be a fun way to explore together.
If discussing porn feels awkward, start small, ask, “What’s something you find really hot?” and see where the conversation takes you.
5. Simmering
Remember when you were first dating and the anticipation of seeing your partner built up all day? That’s simmering; keeping sexual energy alive outside the bedroom, building tension and excitement over the day.
Try kissing passionately instead of just pecking, touching your partner sensually, breathing in their scent, or making out just for the sake of it. Even playful teasing, flirty texts, a note in their jacket or purse can reignite the energy between you.
Related: Download Foreplay Guide for more tips
6. Shower Play
There’s something undeniably sexy about hot water dripping over bare skin. A sensual shower together is a steamy way to heighten intimacy. Prepare in advance, dim the lights, light candles, and bring in shower oil, a blindfold, and even ice cubes. Blindfold your partner and guide them under the water, using the warm oil to massage their skin. Let the contrast of hot and cold sensations tease their body, sliding an ice cube along their skin before melting it with your lips.
7. The Naughty Box
Anticipation is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs. Create a “naughty box” filled with surprises. Handpick sensual gifts like massage oils, sex toys, caressing feathers, or silky lingerie and package them in one enticing bundle. Give it to your partner but don’t let them open it right away. The teasing wait, anticipating, the mystery and the possibilities will make the reveal even more exciting.
Related: 20 New Things to Try in the Bedroom
8. Domination
A common fantasy among women is a partner who confidently takes the lead in the bedroom. This isn’t about being aggressive, it’s about guiding the experience with intentionality and passion.
Hold them against the wall while kissing deeply, slowly undress them or command them to do it themselves. Whisper how hot they look, tell them exactly what you want, and savour their surrender to the moment. Just remember, consent and mutual enjoyment are key, keep it playful and attuned to each other’s desires.
9. Edging
Edging involves bringing yourself or your partner to the brink of orgasm, then pausing to let the sensation simmer before continuing. This practice enhances pleasure, heightens sensitivity and intensifies release.
Focus on sensation, not just the climax. Experiment with different types of stimulation, oral, manual, or toys. Start with shorter periods of edging, gradually increasing the duration. The build-up will make the final release all the more explosive.
Related: The Power of Edging and Orgasm Control
10. Thoughtful Aftercare
Lastly, don’t forget aftercare. Great sex doesn’t end when the climax does. Aftercare, those tender moments of cuddling, stroking, whispering sweet nothings, or simply lying together in shared bliss, helps deepen intimacy, build trust, and keep the desire alive for the next time.
Whisper “I loved that,” or simply enjoy the warmth of each other’s touch. Don’t rush away after the high; linger, savour and let the intimacy spill over into the next day, the next week, and the next irresistible encounter.
A Word from For Play
This Valentine’s Day, why not try something new? Relationships thrive on novelty and excitement, so think outside the box and bring some fresh ideas to the bedroom. Whether exploring new fantasises, learning about each other's pleasure zones, or simply building anticipation through the day, make this year all about deeper connection and more satisfying intimacy, keeping that spark alive not just on Valentine’s Day, but all year long.
Behind the Words
Victoria Rusnac
Founder of For Play & Intimacy Coach
