The Chocolate Dates
A step-by-step playbook to turn your For Play Couples Chocolates into a night of connection, pleasure, and play.
Step 1: Present the Chocolates to your partner
Step 2: Plan a real Date Night
Step 3: Create teasing & anticipation
Step 4: Get everything ready
Step 5: Set the mood, inside and out
Step 6: For Play Chocolates & Play Cards
Step 7: Aftercare ritual
“How do I bring this up?”
Introducing something new into your intimacy can feel vulnerable. But it can also be the start of a playful exploration.
Talking about sex (and especially Sex Chocolates) might feel awkward. But here’s the truth: most people love being invited on a thoughtful and cheeky adventure.
You’re not just gifting chocolate: you’re offering an intimate experience. A moment of connection, playfulness, passion, and love.
Here are some light-hearted ways to bring it up:
- “I got us something a bit cheeky for our next night in… shall we try it??”
- “I saw these chocolates and thought it might be fun for us. It’s not just chocolate, it’s a whole intimate experience.”
- “I’ve been wanting to do something a little more playful together. This felt like the perfect start.”
- “I know it’s been a while… I thought this could be a sweet way to reconnect, with no pressure. Just reconnecting with each other again.”
- “I miss being close to you. This felt like a gentle way to share something together.”
- “This feels new for me… but I’m excited to try it with you.”
Feeling playful? Present it like a gift:
- Leave the chocolates on their pillow with a flirty note.
- Bring them out after dinner and say, “Dessert… but with a twist.”
- Hand them over with a smile and a wink. It’s all part of the tease.
If you're feeling nervous…
You don’t have to say it perfectly, have a sexy voice or grand plan. Just be honest and present. Even saying, “I found this and felt a little nervous sharing it, but I thought it could be fun for us” is more than enough. Vulnerability is powerful and surprisingly sexy.
What matters most:
- Be playful, not pressured. This is an invitation, not an expectation.
- Let your curiosity lead. Treat it like a “let’s see where this takes us” kind of night.
- Frame it as a fun, sensual date night—not just aphrodisiac chocolates, but an experience you’re creating together.
“Let’s make this feel exciting, not like another thing on the to-do list.”
You’re the one taking the lead and that’s sexy.
Why not take this chance to create something memorable, playful, and original? Not just dinner. Not the usual routine.
A date that says: “I love you. I desire you. I want to make you feel special.”
Choose the night and claim it
- Pick the date and protect it. No cancelling. No last-minute “shall we reschedule?”
- Put it in the calendar with a fun sexy name. “The Seduction Night”? “Operation: Undress Me”? Be creative.
- Tease your partner in advance: “No plans Friday. I’ve got something lined up for just us…”
Plan an original experience at home
You’re in charge from the vibe to the activities, so don’t waste the opportunity to lead with creativity, playfulness and care.
- Tap into something your partner has said they wanted to try
- Surprise them with something they don’t expect
- Do they love being cooked for? A certain scent? An outfit? Use those clues
- Organise everything in advance so your partner can relax and receive
Novelty outside the bedroom brings novelty into the bedroom.
Need some inspiration? Why not choose an embodied date
Bring them into their body, not their head:
- Cook together slowly and feed each other
- Create a sexy playlist and slow dance together in candlelight
- Try blindfolded tasting with wine, chocolate or fruit
- Do a new activity: a dance class or partner yoga class on demand
- Organise a themed outfit night roleplaying or connecting with a movie
- Set up a “home spa” with candles, oils, creams, warm towels, and music. Trade massages or take turns pampering each other.
What matters most?
- Put in the effort. Effort is the real language of love.
- Surprise them. Mystery is magnetic.
- Make it sensory. Light, scent, touch, sound—engage the body.
“The space between wanting and having… that’s where the spark lives.”
The couples who keep desire alive know that anticipation is everything. When you start to build tension before the date even begins, you’re halfway there..
Start in the morning of the date.
- Whisper in their ear: “Tonight I want you naked, teased, and full of desire. That’s your only job.”
- Leave a note in their bag, pocket, or on the bathroom mirror
- Send a message while they’re at work: “I’m already wet/hard thinking about what I’ll do to you later.”
Flirt through all 5 senses
- Touch: Brush past them slowly. Let your fingers linger.
- Sight: Wear something sexy or out of the ordinary. Let them wonder why.
- Smell: Spray your perfume or cologne on their pillow or scarf.
- Sound: Send a voice note with a sexy tone or a sexy playlist.
Need a little inspiration? Set the mood with our curated For Play playlists.
- Taste: Let the kiss linger after your drink, then murmur, “I can’t wait to taste you next”.
What matters most?
- Build the spark slowly. Desire thrives in tension and delay.
- Teasing is a gift. It says: “You’re wanted. You’re exciting.”
- Anticipation isn’t just foreplay—it is play. Make the lead-up part of the fun.
“A little preparation makes the pleasure feel effortless.”
Before the night begins, take a few moments to set everything up. The more intentional your setup, the more immersive and unforgettable the experience will feel.
Print More Play Cards
Every box of For Play Couples Chocolates comes with 6 cards:
— 3 Talk & Explore Cards with questions to build deeper intimacy
— 3 Play & Connect Cards with intimate ideas to try together
Want more? Download and print our full set of Printable Play Cards to cut out and use with your partner.
You might be tempted to use your phone, but we recommend printing them because screens kill the vibe.
Print the Aftercare Questions for Couples
Want to make your experience magical? Print our Aftercare Questions for Couples and answer them together as you come down from the high.
Get Your Props Ready
Depending on the mood you want to create, prepare any tools or extras ahead of time:
- A dinner plan (if you're including food as part of the night)
- A blindfold, scarf, or tie
- Massage oil or a sensual candle
- Your chosen playlist—or one you've curated yourself
- Fresh sheets, soft towels, and water
- A post-play snack or fruit to share
You’re not just setting up a space. You’re preparing your body, your senses, and your energy to meet each other fully. The more intention you bring, the more magnetic the night becomes.
Choose Your Place Intentionally
- Bedroom – Private, soft, ideal for deep surrender
- Living room floor – Pillows, throws, candles = instant intimacy den
- Bathroom – Steamy shower or candlelit bath with slow touch
- Kitchen counter or dining table – Playful edge, food play, power dynamics
Style the Space to Awaken the Senses
- Scatter soft pillows and throws to create a cozy, playful scene
- Light candles or use fairy lights to soften the room
- Burn incense or diffuse oils like sandalwood, ylang ylang, or jasmine
Top Tip: Choose your signature scent for intimacy. Over time, your partner will begin to associate that scent with desire and arousal.
- Place massage oil, cards, and water nearby so you don’t break the flow
- Play a curated For Play playlist, or create one that suits the tone—sensual, flirty, seductive, or slow
Drop into Lover Mode
Take a few minutes to shift out of your day and into your body. This is your moment to arrive as your Erotic Self—fully present, playful, and ready to connect.
Choose one small ritual that gets you in the mood:
- A meditation to connect with your Erotic Self
- A slow, sensual shower
- Applying oil to your body with intention
- Light movement or dance
- Changing into something sexy or absolutely nothing
Enjoy the Chocolates
Make eating the chocolates part of the foreplay.
- Take one chocolate each: pink for her, gold for him
- Let it melt slowly in your mouth while maintaining eye contact
- The adaptogens take 30–60 minutes to activate, depending on your body
- Use the time to tease, touch, cook, dance, or just breathe together
Turn it into a sensual ritual. Desire begins with presence.
Be Fully Present
Intimacy lives in attention. The more present you are with each other, the more charged everything becomes.
- Put phones away: out of sight, out of mind
- Avoid talk about kids, work, or chores
- Make deep eye contact. Touch. Flirt. Linger.
Talk & Explore Cards
Start with the Talk & Explore cards to build emotional intimacy first.
- These prompts are deep, intimate questions designed to reconnect you emotionally
- Take turns asking and answering
- Let the build-up of emotional intimacy open the door to physical closeness.
Play & Connect Cards
Once you’re feeling close, move into the Play & Connect cards.
- These are sensual, erotic ideas to explore together
- Talk through what excites you. Try one tonight or make a plan for your next For Play experience
- Remember: there’s no pressure, only play
After intimacy, your nervous system is wide open and your hormones are still humming. What happens now matters just as much as what came before.
Aftercare, the soft, present time after sex, is where connection deepens and safety is reinforced.
Studies show that couples who engage in aftercare report higher levels of emotional intimacy, trust, and sexual satisfaction.
Come down gently
- Cuddle, hold, or lie skin-to-skin
- Take a warm bath or shower together
- Exchange a slow, intentional massage
- Share silence, soft music, or simply breathe together
- Offer water, a snack, a soft blanket, or a forehead kiss
- Ask: “What do you need right now?”
- Give the kind of tenderness you’d love to receive
Let your bodies land in softness.
Talk through the experience
Use the Aftercare Questions to stay emotionally connected as you come down. Speak gently and with love. Continue learning and rediscovering each other, moment by moment.